#ProjectRecode: Validate the Shit Out of Each Other
“There was an Onion story a few years ago that was ‘women get together for drinks to validate the shit out of each other.’ And I have a wonderful group of female friends...who are all women in powerful positions in different places - we do that.
These are people who when they're talking to me say, ‘Oh, here's how you could deal with this’ or ‘Here's what you could do with it.’ ‘Here's a way that you're not standing up for yourself enough, go out there and do it.’ And I do the same thing for her, because it's easier to talk to someone else and give them the good advice that you don't always take.” -A former Clinton staffer
IS IT REALLY THAT SIMPLE?
YES, IT CAN BE.
Women in our study emphasized the good that comes from women validating and supporting other women inside AND outside of the workplace. Here are some examples they shared:
1. Get a group of girls together and go out weekly for some good old Leslie Knope-style "Ladies celebrating ladies."
2. Always Compliment each of your fellow employees' successes and accomplishments.
3. Give credit when credit is due, even if it's just a quick shout-out over group messaging or e-mail.
4. Empower your fellow women in the workplace - validate their comments in meetings, call it out when they are being talked over, and offer support when you can.
So... what's the big deal?
1. You deserve to be heard!
It reminds other women that they DESERVE to be in that workplace just as much as anyone else and that their voice should be HEARD…
2. The Key to Success is...
Strong validation from other women facilitates the self-confidence and poise necessary to navigate male-dominated environments. If we heard anything from our participants, it's that confidence is KEY.
Validation helps women believe in themselves and their abilities.
Several women said that there is a culture of self-doubt that needs to be overcome for so many women in political tech.
And, self-confidence is something that can be socially produced on campaigns.